Life With My Artist

There’s a fine line between being creative and needing medication.
— Victor Ellison
Why can’t more people think like me?!”
“Honey, if more people thought like you, this world would be a very different place.”
“That was about the most tactful way you could have put that.
— Conversation Between Victor and Cassandra
Lots of people have weird dreams. I have weird wakings.
— Victor Ellison

Victor is an artist through and through. He marches to the beat of his own drum and doesn’t give a damn what anyone else thinks or says about it. He takes immense pride in his work and absolutely refuses to put his name on anything that isn’t completely perfect. A few weeks ago while out in the woodshop, his router slipped while finishing the edge of a board. Rather than calling it “seconds” and listing it at a discount, he tossed it away so as not to offer anything less than totally perfect. 

That time he wanted to be a pirate. 

That time he wanted to be a pirate. 

His unflinching dedication to quality is reflected in other areas of his life. Victor doesn’t do anything halfway. Mopping the floor? That laminate will sparkle. Brushing the cat? By Jove, she’s going to be the sleekest she’s ever been. Grilling hot dogs? Better believe they’ll be the best dogs on a plate! 

That time Missy wanted to be a parrot.

That time Missy wanted to be a parrot.

Victor won’t listen to this type of praise though. Another facet of his nature is to deflect praise and failure to see the value of his work, much to my frustration. I’ve spent the better part of 3 years trying to get through to him how his life and work has impacted others. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve complimented him on a photo or a sketch and he’s instantly poo-poohed it; or if I’ve gone gaga over a photo just to watch him delete it because it wasn’t good enough. 

That time he used the cat as a weapon against a sea turtle chain pull.

That time he used the cat as a weapon against a sea turtle chain pull.

As an artist, he’s always got his feelers out for inspiration. When we first got together, I kept hearing the camera shutter on his phone snap and would turn around, only to realize he had added a screengrab to his inspiration folder. He calls me his muse and I can only hope I’ve inspired him to create more amazing art to share with you. 

That time he was in a lineup.

That time he was in a lineup.

My artist is also the funniest person I’ve ever met. The three quotes I shared at the top are all actual gems that fell from his lips in just the past couple of weeks. He’s also extremely smart, so much so that sometimes I feel completely dumb. Some days I wonder what a voice-activated recorder might pick up when I’m not around! Over the past nearly 3 years, Victor has grown so comfortable with me that I get to see the Unfiltered side of him. Quite a privilege, let me tell you. 

That time he was too tall for early American settlements. 

That time he was too tall for early American settlements. 

Above all, life with Victor is amazingly fulfilling. He doesn’t take anything in life for granted and has helped me to think that way as well. He notices the little things and helps keep me grounded in reality. You know the whole thing about not seeing the forest for the trees? Not only can he see the forest and tell you about it, he can see the surrounding lake and plains and tell you about them, too.

That time his pint was bigger than your pint.

That time his pint was bigger than your pint.

Will he believe any of this about himself? Doubtful. But I’ve got an amazing life with my artist and I intend to keep letting him know just how happy I am with this life he's given me! 

That time he found a huge cat in a bookstore, and considered stealing it.

That time he found a huge cat in a bookstore, and considered stealing it.

This article was contributed by me beautiful wife, Cassandra. Her views do not necessarily represent mine (especially if they're positive towards me). :) - Victor